1. An old boyfriend who makes you smile with melancholy when you remember him and an old boyfriend who makes you proud of how far you’ve come.

2. A piece of furniture that has never been previously owned by anyone in your family that you bought with your own money and makes you happy.

3. An outfit that makes you feel invincible if your future employer or man of your dreams calls to meet you in an hour.

4. A set of lingerie that you would not be ashamed to be seen wearing.

5. At least one scar on your heart where HE hurt you.

6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.

7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age — and some money set aside to help fund it.

8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account — all of which nobody has access to but you.

9. A dream so big it scares you.

10. At least One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.

11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a pair of totally unpractical shoes.

12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.

13. The belief that you are worthy of treating yourself with respect.

14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, a push-up bra and a great pair of spankx

15. At least One recipe you cook well to impress the fussiest of guests

16. A place to go just to think… where you can be completely alone with your thoughts.

17. At least one child who looks to you for guidance and advice…even if he or she isn’t your own.

18. The knowledge on how to break-up with a man or confront a friend without losing your temper or your self respect.

19. At least one lover who knew exactly how to touch you to make your toes curl.

20. The memory of a kiss so powerful…just the thought of it could sustain you into old age.

21. The medical history that runs in your family so you can take care of YOU!

22. The ability to live on your own and not be dependent on anyone.

23. An outfit that feels like you are in a cocoon and safe from the world…its usually fleece or flannel

24. The ability to let go of the hurts from your childhood and embrace the fact that your parents did the best they could with the skills they had

25. One secret that makes you smile.

26. A memory that makes you cringe….because those memories were lessons that brought you to here

27. A journal full of your deepest thoughts

28. A person you can call at 4 in the morning because you’re in a bind

29. The knowledge of what you are willing to accept and what you are not in a relationship

30. Something you do that’s just for you and no one else.

31. A piece of jewelry that has sentimental meaning

32. An older woman in your life who embodies the traits you wanna develop in your old age.

33. A spirituality that feeds your spirit and nourishes your soul.

34. A soundtrack to your life that when you hear it on the radio you sing at the top of you lungs

35. Someone or something you LOVE with your whole heart

36. A to do list that never gets completely checked off

37. Enough money to run away in case you have to

38. A purpose to rise out of bed every morning

39. The ability to look in a mirror and love the ripples and bumps and wrinkles that stare back at you….because you earned them all over time.

40. The ability to say NO without having to add anything further.

41. A hobby that you can get lost in for hours.

42. A hole in your heart from losing someone you have loved deeply…

43. Done at least one thing kind for someone that has no way to ever repay your kindness…

44. A “Been there – Done that” T-shirt to starting over from scratch..whether it be from a divorce, a career change, a massive loss or surviving life’s curve ball.

45. A photo album full of memories..even if it’s on a flash drive or saved to the cloud.

46. A passport… Up to date and ready to be stamped for the next adventure.

47. At least one grey hair, wrinkle and saggy body part…. If you don’t.. Something’s wrong.

48. An accomplishment that’s all yours…outside of your children, not tied to your spouse…something you have done or created all on your own.

49. The knowledge of who you are as a woman. What makes you happy and what is no longer tolerated.

50. The understanding that 50 is not over the hill…its not even close to the hill…. There is no hill even on the horizon….cuz you still have shit to do….

Dear Mean People!

Dear Mean People from my past,

Is it really necessary to be as rude and cold hearted as you? Is it really necessary to walk around like you seriously care?… while having the dirtiest look on your face. Is it really necessary to talk about people that have been nothing but nice and supportive of you? Making people feel like crap because you’re having a bad day? Is any of it really necessary?

I guess I just don’t understand how you mean people don’t feel guilt or remorse after bullying someone to have second thoughts about their decisions to further their career where you had NO INTERESTED in them when they were begging for help!, sometimes even literally. Does being the Bully of Venice make you feel important? and bring you happiness? Does it make you feel better to take your anger out on others and talk down to them because you are having a bad day and not able to lead properly??

We all know the movie Mean Girls is a classic, but you mean people are sad to say the least. You had a supportive friend in me, Unfortunately, the bond is now broken .urbanhead

Open House Today 1pm-5pm

Open houses IMG_7020Sunday 10/23/2016 

716 El Medio Ave Pacific Palisades, CA 90272            $3,999,000

10795 Wilshire Blvd #405 Pacific Palisades, CA         $1,695,000

1755 Ocean Ave #407 Santa Monica, CA 90401          $15,500 monthly available now!

1755 Ocean Ave #711 Santa Monica, CA 90401          $3,950,000

2311 4th St. #206 Santa Monica, CA 90405                 $619,000

2311 4th St. #209 Santa Monica, CA 90405                 $2950. monthly available now!

2311 4th St #118                                                                    $2800 monthly available now!

Urban Living Weekend Opens


Open houses for Saturday 10/22/2016 and Sunday 10/23/2016 

716 El Medio Ave Pacific Palisades, CA 90272            $3,999,000

10795 Wilshire Blvd #405 Pacific Palisades, CA         $1,695,000

1755 Ocean Ave #407 Santa Monica, CA 90401          $15,500 monthly available now!

1755 Ocean Ave #711 Santa Monica, CA 90401          $3,950,000

2311 4th St. #206 Santa Monica, CA 90405                 $619,000

2311 4th St. #209 Santa Monica, CA 90405                 $2950. monthly available now!

2311 4th St #118                                                                    $2800 monthly available now!



Fall in love with this breathtaking contemporary home located in the fabulous notable area of Pacific Palisades. Designed with the finest architectural integrity and built to perfection! Open floor plan with a rooftop deck with 360 degree views!! 5 bedroom 5.5 bath will truly appeal to those who demand the epitome of luxurious living. Fleetwood pockets doors through out, disappear into the walls to allow for the living space to flow outdoors where you will be greeted with a backyard featuring a outdoor kitchen, sparkling private lap pool, and fire pit. Master is Private with attention to detail making this a designer home a step above the rest! 1955 Thunder Bird included with full price offer!

URBAN Non-Profit!!!

This Holiday season my new Brokerage Urban Living Real Estate is launching a non-profit division for all the families located in our communities. We are currently looking for unused and unopened toiletries, clothing and toys.

For the home flippers of the bunch we need your used appliances! We want all our communities to enjoy the holidays by getting all of the things that we need for life! More details to come. For easy drop off please visit
124 S.Barrington place Brentwood,CA
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